Why “I love you” isn’t enough
By Lindy Baker, Life Coach & Gifted Clairvoyant
Many people of both sexes have forgotten the deep inner meaning and feeling that should come with the speaking of the words “I love you.” It’s become very common to say the words as a flippant comment instead of a response that has true feeling behind it. Is it any wonder that so many people don’t want to hear it anymore or have become indifferent to the words? How many times do we say “Luv you” without even thinking about it. There are ways to make these words have real meaning and give them substance on which to form your long-term relationships.
Recently I saw a Facebook post that said, “I love you…and I mean it.” I don’t know about you, but when I read it that way it made me really think about how casually I’ve been giving that statement to my loved ones. So I tried it out for a couple of days stating it with the “and I mean it” after it, and most definitely people take notice. You might want to do the same thing just to experience the reaction for yourself.
A few of my clients have experienced difficulty in their relationship because their partner won’t say those words. The person qualifies their lack of stating it by saying that the other person should know that they love them or they wouldn’t be with them. We all have different ways that we need to have affection expressed to us to find security in our relationship. Both parties need to be on the same page with how those expressions should be relayed or the relationship is going to suffer.
Other than not loving you, do you wonder why a man might hesitate to say those words to you? Many men have shared that if a man tells a woman that he loves her, she doesn’t just hear those words. She’s on the phone telling all her friends and relatives that he just proposed and wants to set a wedding date. From my conversations with women, I can tell you that is true. Women have a tendency to take the meaning as more than the man intends when he expresses how he is feeling right then and there. So understand this if your man is hesitant to verbally express his affection for you.
Likewise with women, many men believe that if you express “I love you” too soon that you are “easy” or “needy.” Many women hesitate out of fear that if they respond they will appear too anxious and the man will disappear.
If you are one of the people that are in the habit of throwing out an absent minded “I love you” or “luv you” at the end of your conversations, you might want to add a little bit of spice and meaning to those words. Here’s how. Instead of just saying “I love you” tell your partner, children or whomever what really turns you on about them. You can say to them, “I really love the way you throw back your head when laughing.” Or, “I really love it that you called.” You could try, “It’s just so special to me that you took time to call me.” You get the idea.
Notice, too, if you are constantly telling your loved ones what you don’t like about them. I think this is an easy habit to get into. Many women start acting like a man’s mother rather than his wife or girlfriend. The more good thoughts that you put out there for your loved one, the deeper the love grows along with the expressions of love. More than just saying the words, start telling your partner why! This will send the message of loving them, along with keeping them doing the things that you really love about them.
You might want to pass this article on to your lover who won’t say I love you by using the “share” buttons. Luv you!…Oops…I just love that you liked this article so much that you passed it along to all your friends.
Lindy Baker, B.A., M.Ed., CHt. is a world renowned Life Skills Coach, authentic Gifted Clairvoyant, columnist, medium and author. She provides private, confidential clairvoyant psychic phone readings and transformational coaching for celebrities, clients and businesses all over the world on business, romance, career. Lindy’s number is (858) 272-6463. Testimonials and other information are available at www.SuperIntuition.com and www.LindyBaker.com
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